For Lent I've made a poster with 400 spots for us to write down things we are thankful for this Lent. Gianna is preparing for First Communion and I thought this would be a great way to help make the connection between Eucharist and thanksgiving. I also want to finish reading "One Thousand Gifts" by Ann Voskamp that I began so long ago, but still have a few chapters left.
I feel like this weekend DH and I talked about how we need to redouble our efforts to spend more time together and make our marriage & friendship come before the kids. We don't really know what this will look like, but if we don't begin at least some intentional effort, the distance between us is only going to grow expodentially. My conclusion is that it needs to include sharing more about our faith/doubts openly and spending more time together, including sleeping in the same bed without children between us (going to be hard to convince DS of that one) and getting out of the house together.
So we decided to read and discuss a book during Lent. DH picked out: "Simply Jesus: A New Vision of Who He Was, What He Did, and Why He Matters" DH suggested this book because he thought we would both benefit from delving into the question: Who is Jesus really?? N.T.Wright writes, "Unless you ask this question ("Are you who they say you are?"), your "Jesus" risks disappearing like a hot-air balloon off into the mists of fantasy. This problem remains enormously important. "
I'm really glad DH suggested this because I think that it might really be at the heart of all his doubts, and of my own spiritual desert of late. To me it has become all about me being a better person, but really, that is not what the heart of Jesus or his message was all about.
If we can ask the question "Are you who they say you are?" about Jesus, we might be able to ask the same thing about one another and learn something new as well. Perhaps we will also include many things about eachother that we are thankful for on our poster.